How to manage your children's tantrums?

The first five years of a child's life are critical because they are developing their emerging personality. For this reason, the way in which efforts the problems as they present themselves to a large extent determine if in the future you'll have a rebel child or, on the contrary, in a small secure of himself that learns to respect the rules.

Without a doubt, one of the main problems that, sooner or later have to confront the parents, are the tantrums. These usually appear within two years, although often reach their climax in the three or four years . How do you handle them so assertive?

3 year old tantrums

Understanding tantrums

A tantrum is nothing but an immature way of expressing the anger or the anger. Two years after the child already understands that it is a person independent of their parents and want to enjoy a certain degree of autonomy to test the skills that is acquiring and developing, when it fails to do so because we will put you a barrier or limit, it is normal to get angry. However, as has not yet learned to manage their emotions, expresses his anger as if it were a volcano in full eruption .

In fact, His brain still does not work as an adult. The frontal cortex, which is responsible for regulating the expression of emotions, it is still very immature and will not achieve an acceptable development until the age of seven. Therefore, it is important that you understand their temper tantrums are part of the development process, are normal . However, all does not end there: while the child is small, it is already capable to establish some links and draw their own conclusions.

Therefore, if you have seen that after their first tantrums he has managed to get what he wanted, he will understand that this is an effective method to achieve their goals and are likely to continue repeating it.

How to manage?

1. Offer to him help when its tantrum should to the frustration. The small children know much more than they manage to communicate or do. Often the gap between their potential and their real-world skills is frustrating them, in those moments a tantrum may ensue. If you detect that your tantrum is that he feels frustrated because you can't do something, help you complete the task. Talk gently and encourage them to strive, indicating the steps to be followed or taking his hands and guiding them.

2. Obvious, its behavior when the tantrum is an attempt to manipulate. The principle of extinction asserts that a conduct disappears if we did not pay attention. Therefore, when notes that the child is having a tantrum manipulate simply because he wants to get something to change,  ignore. Say to him: "I notice that you are angered, I will make you alone until you calm down”. Obviously, make sure that does not hurt himself. If you believe that it is possible to hurt, the most suitable thing is to embrace it very loudly until the tantrum passes to him but you do not yield before its demand. When the child understands the tantrums are not the route to obtain what he wishes, these will disappear.

3. Negotiates. It is not that parents become a general issuing orders that must be obeyed without hesitation. It is important that the child understands from small that your opinion is important but only if she expresses assertive manner. Therefore, say that you can get what they want only if… (you set the condition). For example, you can tell that ask kindly what you want, or that first you have to finish what you are doing.

How to Find a Good Daycare?

Nowadays many parents choose to go back to work at least part-time after only one or two years of on parental leave. A good daycare is very important in this situation, so that one knows his child in the very best hands. The search for a good daycare or nursery place is not so easy. Especially in urban areas, the supply of childcare places has been already rare. You must register your child to daycare facilities shortly after birth, so that you can actually get a seat - reservations are useful sometimes even before birth.

Things to consider

1. Location and accessibility
Location speaks for itself to find a good daycare. Even if you take your child every day and pick up, it makes a difference whether the area sure looks or not. Of course you should also consider how you can reach the support site: walking from home? On the way to work? There is easy public access? If you are coming by car: can you keep well, bring your child?

2. Layout conditions
Child care should be bright and friendly. Generously designed rooms which are child-friendly, are there as well as Mountaineer to cross over and a garden, or at least a yard where the children in a safe environment can play. Sure how the garden is equipped: there are green spaces? The equipment look like? You should consider exactly the areas of the game, so you know how your child is encouraged. Most care facilities construction and Doll corners, many have also play equipment such as a slide or exercise within the kindergarten. And, of course, also a gym should not be missed.

3. Staff
A very important point is the staff in the crib. Watch dealing with babies - especially how to deal with conflicts among the children and comforted as in tears. Also, you should watch how staff deals with each other. The general atmosphere should be relaxed and friendly. Only if there are sufficient staff, is that good maintenance and promotion need only the smallest of the little in terms of language and movement. The ratio should be balanced and the Assistant Keeper.

4. Group
What criteria are the groups? Only according to age, or even after the State of development of children? How big are the groups? How many caregivers are there per class?  Each group has their own space? Is a real child care is given.

5. Support measures
What type of activities conducted with the children? It is very important to encourage kids at different levels according to their current state of development. The motor skills, ie the promotion of movement and sport part, as just as important as creative: singing, painting, story hours and more. But naturally there is also time for free play, where your child can learn to deal with themselves and others. Furthermore, many kindergartens already offer language support.

6. Eating and sleeping
Another important issue for many parents is the topic of a nap. Still, there are many kindergartens which children must sleep for lunch, although this no longer accustomed to at home.  What is done so that if a child does not want to eat something?

7. Opening hours
How to fit the opening hours of the nursery school in your daily routine? Is it possible to have early idle? Late pick up? Does the child have to stay there all day? How it looks with holidays, what about holidays and free days?

If you have made a daycare selection, it makes sense to take your child to an open day or for a short visit. You can from ever testing the first response to the new environment and are aware of what your child is feeling or how supervisors deal with it, if your child is shy or scared, crying. You can include this in Your decision making. Select facilities, you should take the time to accompany then also settled, so that you have a smooth transition.